Happiness sparks they call it 
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Do you know that smile that lights up on your face when you see that darling friend or when you hears your favourite song?
To prosper in the face of obstacles, diversions, and the overwhelming events of our time, we need them more than before. Regretfully, these moments are difficult to find on certain days.
The secret is to intentionally, rather than by accident, add more joyful sparks into your life.
Adopting viewpoints and making decisions that can make you happy requires mental toughness and self-control, particularly when unpleasant feelings and thoughts are taking over.
Five mantras for mentally strong people
1. What Counts is what I have.
It's simple to dwell on the past when faced with hardship. When your job endeavor went awry, you might have lost resources, money, or time. Or you were laid off and lost your identity. Or you lost a friend you used to get out with when they moved across the nation.
There is a significant difference when you remember to concentrate on what you still have. Research indicates that cultivating thankfulness consciously enhances wellbeing.
For example, in the aforementioned scenarios, you may be thankful for insightful information, the family members you can spend more time with, a new vacation spot, and a friendship you can maintain over great distances.
2. A perfect path does not exist.
You risk becoming trapped in a negative cycle when you question a decision you've made or complain that things aren't going as planned.
In actuality, there will always be unforeseen detours. Accepting the flawed road and overcoming setbacks makes it simpler to discover joy.
Consider a success or result that brought you joy. It's likely that you have to overcome some obstacles to get there.
3. Let it be
You may become even more irate if someone urges you to "just let it go" while you're feeling annoyed. It's also lousy advise because you'll probably find it impossible to disregard what happened and how it affected you.
On the contrary, you can tell yourself, "Let it be." A more reliable way to escape a negative spiral is to use a type of cognitive acceptance.
Try not to change your feelings about a negative occurrence or try to erase it from your mind. Allow it to remain there. Recognize and accept that these feelings are normal, and concentrate on how you may use them to your advantage going forward.
4. Big picture, little step.
We risk losing perspective when we struggle with setbacks. Little difficulties can become enormous all of a sudden.
Big picture, small step serves as a reminder of your ultimate objective or your ideal life and self-image. A setback becomes less significant when viewed in the larger context.
It can assist you in determining one tiny action you can take to resume your positive and forward-thinking course. One modest step of hopefulness can lead to another, and so on, from that initial action.
5. "Adversity produces beliefs rather than consequences."
Using the ABC approach from cognitive behavioral therapy as inspiration, consider this your ABC sentence. The point is to remind oneself that hardship does not always translate into bad things happening to you.
Adversity ultimately determines your response to it and the beliefs you develop as a result.
For instance, would you consider a failed job interview to be an irreparable catastrophe that amply proves your failure? Or are you going to see it as a chance to learn and a challenge that you will conquer, like you have done in the past?
