Five Pillars of Healthy Relationships by Pastor Paula White Cain & Minister Jonathan Cain

Pastor Paula White Cain and Minister Jonathan Cain of City of Destiny in Apopka, Florida shared five tips for achieving healthy relationships. Pastor Paula began by discussing her own broken past, including her father's suicide when she was five and her parents' abandonment of her when she was a baby. She also shared her own struggle with abandonment issues, including an incident where her then-husband Randy had left her and she jumped on the hood of his car. She ended by saying that God wants to do a work in us and help us overcome our issues so that we can be a comfort to others.

In this teaching, Pastor Paula White Cain discussed the importance of unconditional love and respect in a marriage. She shared the differences between herself and her husband, Minister Jon, and how they make their marriage work despite their differences. She also discussed the importance of communication, respect, and submission in a healthy relationship, citing scripture to support her points. Lastly, she spoke about how her husband brought value into her life by allowing her to be comfortable in her own skin and allowing her to move around in bed.

Minister Jon and Pastor Paula speak about the five pillars of healthy relationships, particularly in marriage. They start with the importance of putting God first in the relationship, as no human can bear the weight of sustaining it. Practical tips to do this include praying for each other, taking communion together, and going to church together. The second pillar is acceptance, and she references Ephesians 4:29 and 6:14, as well as a story of Michelangelo's David to illustrate the importance of accepting each other's flaws. Other pillars include making the marriage a ministry, treating each other with grace, and understanding that there will be disagreements and moments of distance. Ultimately, the goal of putting God first is to have His presence in the marriage, which will bring greater joy, peace, and humility.

Bible References: Psalm 51:10, Romans 12:2, 2 Corinthians 5:17, John 3:16, 1 Peter 4:8, Proverbs 18:13, James 1:19-20, Ephesians 4:2-3, Colossians 3:18, Ephesians 5:20-23, Ephesians 4:6, Thessalonians 5:23-24, John 3:1, 2 Corinthians 6:14, Psalm 89:15, Psalm 16:11, Ephesians 4:29, Psalm 127:1

Some of the questions that Pastor Paula and Minister Jonathan Cain address are:
How can I overcome abandonment issues?
What are the five things that help with a healthy relationship?
What does God’s Word say about relationships?
How can I have a more satisfying relationship?
How can I become more whole and in the image of God?
What is the importance of understanding my childhood?
How can I learn to trust people?
What steps can I take to transform my life with God’s help?
How can I learn to manage my emotions in relationships?
How can I develop a healthier relationship with myself?
How can I build healthier work relationships?
How can I create a better environment for my family?
How can I cultivate unconditional love in my relationship?
What are some ways to show respect to my partner?
How can I become a better listener in my relationship?
What are some ways to foster healthy communication in my relationship?
How can I better understand my partner who is very different from me?
How can I be more patient in disagreements with my partner?
How can I show love to my partner in a way that is free of fear?
What are some signs of a healthy relationship?
How can I ensure that I am being respectful of my partner?
How can I better practice submission in my relationship?
How can I make sure I am not judging my partner?
How can I become less selfish in my relationship?
How do I put God first in my relationship?
How can I make sure I'm not yoking my relationship with an unbeliever?
How can I make my marriage a ministry?
What is the best way to pray for my partner?
How do I show grace to my partner?
What does it mean to accept someone as they are?
What is the importance of acknowledging, appreciating, and accepting my partner?
How can I ensure that our relationship is healthy and strong?
How do I practice spiritual attachment to my partner?
How can I make sure I'm not trying to control my partner?
What is the importance of attending church together?
How can I build a relationship where God is at the center?

For more information about Paula White Ministries please visit paulawhite.org